Hold the Gap (Practice)

The practice of staying present to difference without rushing to fix, flee, or force agreement - like holding a drawn bow before releasing.

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Type of Resource
Concept
Scale
Personal, Relational, Collective
Technical Definition
A fundamental Transilience practice for maintaining integration during relational tension. Involves simultaneous awareness of: your internal state (Three Minds reading), the other's separate reality, and the charged space between. Physiologically requires vagal tone sufficient to tolerate sympathetic activation without discharge into action. The "hold" is not passive but actively maintained presence, pooling energy for authentic response rather than reactive discharge.
Also see...
The Three Minds

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